In today's article, I want to share an idea with you that completely changed my conception of what a happy relationship is.
There's no denying that a successful marriage or long term relationship is a pretty amazing adventure.
Deep down, we all crave a life shared with that special someone. To have them by our side, and to be by theirs. Always.
I mean obviously if you think about it long enough, the idea sounds nuts. Attaching yourself to someone… forever?! No matter what?
What if they decide fluoride is dangerous and stop using tooth paste? Now you're doomed to the smell of gone off milk every morning... forever? 😫
Well... that's the deal, it seems. It can't be all sunshine and rainbows, right?
But there has to be plenty of upside too. Otherwise why would we be so powerfully attracted to the idea? If you’ve ever truly been in love, you know the desire for a happy committed relationship is not just a “construct”.
It's something very real and very powerful.
But nowadays, a lot of people don't really believe in it anymore. We’ve come up with all sorts of reasons for why committed relationships are "outdated". And you’ll hear some very elaborate and sensible-sounding social theories of why that’s the case.
But I’d like to politely disagree, and maybe simplify the whole debate a little. Because the root of the problem is really not that complex.
The problem is that we’ve forgotten one of the most important aspects of what a successful long term relationship is.
We live in a society of complete and overwhelming abundance. We have excessive choice of what to consume literally everywhere. Tinder and Bumble and Hinge and bla bla bla…
The thing is, behind all this fast paced consumption of humans (because to put it bluntly that’s what dating apps are), hides the ultimate marketing trick. It’s a carrot that’s constantly dangled in front of our noses:
The mysterious desire to find “the one”.
And that very idea is the problem. It’s the ultimate lie. Because there isn’t one “the one”. There are many “ones”.
You will definitely find other people you are attracted to after you’ve met your partner.
But a successful relationship is a choice. It’s a choice you make every day to decide to love one person.
That's the secret of a committed long term relationship.
And the reason you do it is because it’s the most fulfilling thing you can ever do.
It’s the only way you will ever have a chance of discovering the deep connection that two humans are capable of sharing. It’s also the only way you’ll ever be confronted with all the parts of yourself that prefer to run away at the first sign of difficulty.
The solution is simple, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy.
The good news is it’s more about doing the right things consistently, one day at a time, rather than random over-the-top dramatic gestures.
All you need is the right knowledge, and a bit of consistency in applying it.
The challenge of building something meaningful, or the never ending cycle of new beginnings and painful ends?
If you've decided you want to make the brave choice, congratulations. We're glad to have you on board and we’ve designed a free 5 part program that will help you along your journey.
All deeply researched and handwritten by yours truly. It will get you asking the right questions, doing the right things and communicating better in just 5 weeks.
We’ve also included a few spicy bedroom games to top it all off… ❤️🔥
Because that’s just how we roll. 😏
These types of programs will be soon be premium content on our app, but for now we’re giving this one away for free…
You’ll find everything you need here.
See you soon...
Written by
David From Marketing 🤷🏻♂️
I create content to serve Kupl’s mission of strengthening connection and intimacy in relationships. My main drive is to help bring more self-awareness to ourselves and our relationships, and hopefully, more kindness into our world.
I’m looking forward to sharing ideas with you. I hope they’ll help you as much as they continue to help me.
